By: T.S.A/Guest Writer
Question: What is the best way to break up with your girlfriend?
Answer: Break-ups are difficult. We of all people understand that, if you know what we mean. To help you out, we have decided to make a top 10 list of how to and how not to break up with someone. These are just pure opinions and what we wished happened to us in this kind of situation.
- Have the conversation face to face.
- Tell them why you want to break up, it’s better for them to know than to guess about what went wrong.
- Make sure you tell them gently and clearly, some may find it hard to deal with.
- Make sure that both of you are comfortable. An uncomfortable setting could create more tension and anxiety.
- Break up in regular circumstances, hearing bad information like that on a bad day will not go over well.
- Make sure you are ready to break off the relationship. Don’t separate over something silly and miss out on a healthy relationship. However, if you are in an on and off relationship, it takes a toll on your emotions and it would be better to just end it.
- Do it privately! A public break-up can be very embarrassing for the other party and possibly ruin their chances on trying to get into a relationship with someone else.
- If you ever had real feelings for them make sure that you tell them that but don’t give them false hope.
- Make the break-up clean, don’t leave them wondering if you could still be a couple.
- Tell them how you feel clearly and up front, it is never a good idea to beat around the bush.
HOW NOT TO:
- Do not break-up over text.
- Do not break-up over face time.
- Do not break-up over a phone call.
- Do not have someone else do it for you.
- Do not put all of the blame on one person.
- Make sure that they are the first person to know about it, don’t let them hear it through the grapevine.
- Do not break-up in a place where everyone else can listen in to the conversation.
- Do not bring your friends with you for “moral support”.
- Do not tell them and then walk away, leave time to talk about how both of you feel.
- Do not be harsh about it.
It’s usually not just one person’s fault. If you feel as though you can fix a broken relationship, then start there. Break-ups are hard, not only for the one who is listening, but also for the one who has made the decision to separate. Don’t forget that breaking up with someone is okay. It might just be one step closer to what you actually want or it could be what you need to get out of an unhealthy relationship. Remember that relationships are complicated, and “forever” doesn’t always mean eternal.
Thank you so much for reaching out to us. Break-ups are easier when you have someone to talk to it about. We hope that these small tips helped and make sure to reach out to us again soon!